Don't know how to write today. A lot of feelings. Complicated.
Father wrote letter again. He refused to give Didi and Baby money for studies. He said we are poor and have to save money now. He just hired a new headmistress for the kindergarten to do what Mama did before, so that he can just relax and collect money as before.
Found out Mama's EPF was missing beneficiary and half the amount that should be there on Wed 12/19/2007:
"I went to check my mum's EPF beneficiary today and found that there is no beneficiary. However, we are very sure that my mum put my aunt and my grandma's name. Also, a few weeks after she passed away my father ask my grandma to 'sign'(thumb print) sth saying that it is to settle the EPF money according to my grandma's wish (she would take a small amt n give the rest to the 3 of us )
Today I found out that the money is not the amt that should be there (according to what we know and what the lawyer stated to me), only about half of what we expected remains and there is no beneficiary. The officer said it could either be that my mum did not put a beneficiary( which is totally impossible) or that it has been canceled.
I really don't know what I should do or what to think of my father. I feel helpless, like there is no way I can settle these many things. If I don't care, it is like running away. If I care, I feel very hurt.
I don't know how to feel anymore. I feel like giving up. Yet, I know I can't. "
It is almost impossible to find out if anyone has taken out anything, unless by court order.
According to law, insurance company should compensate us for Mama's death. The motorist company should also compensate us. Today MeiHua asked him. He told her it is not confirmed whose fault it was in the accident. More than four months have passed. Police's result of investigation should be out by now. Besides, he told her that he has taken out $120,000 for Didi's study. He said Didi wants money in his bank before going to the States, but he would only give Didi the money after Didi physically reaches there.
Father wrote letter again. He refused to give Didi and Baby money for studies. He said we are poor and have to save money now. He just hired a new headmistress for the kindergarten to do what Mama did before, so that he can just relax and collect money as before.
Found out Mama's EPF was missing beneficiary and half the amount that should be there on Wed 12/19/2007:
"I went to check my mum's EPF beneficiary today and found that there is no beneficiary. However, we are very sure that my mum put my aunt and my grandma's name. Also, a few weeks after she passed away my father ask my grandma to 'sign'(thumb print) sth saying that it is to settle the EPF money according to my grandma's wish (she would take a small amt n give the rest to the 3 of us )
Today I found out that the money is not the amt that should be there (according to what we know and what the lawyer stated to me), only about half of what we expected remains and there is no beneficiary. The officer said it could either be that my mum did not put a beneficiary( which is totally impossible) or that it has been canceled.
I really don't know what I should do or what to think of my father. I feel helpless, like there is no way I can settle these many things. If I don't care, it is like running away. If I care, I feel very hurt.
I don't know how to feel anymore. I feel like giving up. Yet, I know I can't. "
It is almost impossible to find out if anyone has taken out anything, unless by court order.
According to law, insurance company should compensate us for Mama's death. The motorist company should also compensate us. Today MeiHua asked him. He told her it is not confirmed whose fault it was in the accident. More than four months have passed. Police's result of investigation should be out by now. Besides, he told her that he has taken out $120,000 for Didi's study. He said Didi wants money in his bank before going to the States, but he would only give Didi the money after Didi physically reaches there.
